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Wednesday, August 22, 2012
"In HIS Time"
"My times are in thy hand:" Psalm 31:15
"He hath made every thing beautiful in his time:" Ecclesiastes 3:11
One of the great problems with teenage dating is that it is wrong timing. For some reason we have the idea that when our kids become teenagers, they can begin having a dating life; and when they turn eighteen, they can make all of their own decisions, and when a boy turns twenty-one he is a man. Where are these rules written? Can anyone tell me where the Bible says this is the way things are to be? In fact, God gives a strong warning against this in Colossians 2:8, "Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ."
Is the "boyfriend/girlfriend" philosophy of God or of the world? An honest look into the Scripture would clearly reveal that it is not of God. In Genesis 2:24, God says, "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." Jesus stated this again in Matthew 19:5 and Mark 10:7, 8. Paul said it again in Ephesians 5:31. This means that a young man is under parental authority until he is married. Parents are to have the say in the relationships their child have. A parent does not have to concede to the standard of the world in this area. This applies to a young lady as well. “So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better” (I Corinthians 7:38). A young lady is under the authority of her parents until her father gives her to the care of her husband. This means that a young lady is to be submissive to her parents’ authority in all matters of life, including courtship. If a daughter were to make a marriage vow without the consent of her father (in the Old Testament), he had the right to annul that marriage. “If a woman also vow a vow unto the LORD, and bind herself by a bond, being in her father's house in her youth; And her father hear her vow, and her bond wherewith she hath bound her soul, and her father shall hold his peace at her: then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she hath bound her soul shall stand. But if her father disallow her in the day that he heareth; not any of her vows, or of her bonds wherewith she hath bound her soul, shall stand: and the LORD shall forgive her, because her father disallowed her” (Numbers 30:3-5).
We can clearly see that God is for parental protection of their young people until the day that they marry. When they get coupled off as teenagers, they are doomed to troubles! They are missing things they will need later in life because they have stepped out of God's timing.
The word for parents and young people is: WAIT! "For evildoers shall be cut off: but those that wait upon the LORD, they shall inherit the earth." "Wait on the LORD, and keep his way, and he shall exalt thee...” Psalm 37:9, 34. "Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall: But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint." Isaiah 40:30,31.
If you have God's love, you can wait. I Corinthians 13:4 says, "Charity (God's agape love) suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up." James 1:4 says, "But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing."
Again, Ecclesiastes 7:8 says, "Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof: and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit."